Things you might be scared to ask, answered

Let’s talk honestly and openly. Dementia can be a difficult thing to navigate for both those who live with the condition and those who love them. As it progresses, we may experience a range of emotions and frustrations. This is normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

Here we’ve looked at covering some of those uncomfortable questions that can arise, which often people are too scared to ask, and we hope that you will find these answers a positive and helpful tool.

Do they even know I’m there?

Even if they don't recognise you, your presence can provide comfort and a sense of familiarity. Emotional recognition often remains intact longer than memory.

Why should I keep visiting?

Regular visits can enhance their emotional well-being and reduce feelings of loneliness. Your continued presence shows love and commitment.

Is there any Point in talking to them?

Yes, communication remains vital. Even if they can't respond, the sound of your voice can be soothing and reassuring.

How do I handle difficult behaviors?

Stay calm and try to understand the underlying cause. Redirecting their attention and maintaining a consistent routine can help manage difficult behaviors.

What if they get upset?

Stay patient and compassionate. Try to understand their perspective and offer comfort. Sometimes, taking a short break can help to de-escalate the situation.

Is there a way to make our visits more enjoyable?

Plan activities that your loved one enjoys and keep visits short and focused. Bringing familiar objects or photos can also help.

I get upset after visits. How can I deal with my own emotions?

It’s essential to take care of yourself. Seek support from friends, family, or professional counselors. Sharing your feelings can alleviate some of the emotional burden.

What can I do if they don’t remember me?

Focus on the emotional connection rather than cognitive recognition. They may not remember your name, but the feelings of love and familiarity can still be present.

I feel like they’re on edge when I visit, how can I make them feel more comfortable?

Create a calm and soothing environment. Use familiar items and maintain a routine to help them feel more secure.

Where Can I Find More Help?

Reach out to dementia support organisations like Dementia UK and the Alzheimer's Society. They offer resources, support groups, and expert advice.